Re-Activating Your True Feminine Nature and Energy:
A Journey to rediscover what may have been suppressed over years of striving to survive.
In a world that often encourages busyness and a relentless pursuit of goals, it’s vital for women to reconnect with their true feminine nature. This means embracing our innate beauty, nurturing our bodies, and cultivating meaningful connections with ourselves and others. When we neglect our feminine energy, we distance ourselves from our intuition, making us vulnerable to decisions that don’t serve our well-being. Many of us have experienced hurt in past relationships, especially those where our femininity was shamed or damaged, possibly in abusive situations that left lasting scars.
Here’s a guide I slowly created over the past 8 months to support myself within this process. Why do I say "slowly created"? I have found this is process-based as opposed to endpoint specific. Yes, there may be situations in your life that catalyse this like entering a healthy love relationship or engaging intentionally in specific practices however it is still a process.
I wanted to share this in order to support others who find themselves in a similar situation. Attached is a special meditation for you to try if you enjoy mindfulness activities. Look for it at the bottom of this article.
1. Appreciate and Celebrate Beauty
Start by recognizing the beauty that exists within and around you. If you have lived each day in survival mode, we often lose this as we are focused on “what needs to get done”. Start by taking a few moments throughout your day to appreciate small things—the delicate petals of a flower, the golden rays of the sun, and most importantly, your unique features. Remember that beauty is not solely about appearance; it encompasses your essence, your spirit, and how you express your individuality.Celebration comes in many forms. Perhaps you can create a daily gratitude practice where you write down things you find beautiful, from personal achievements to nature's wonders. Share your appreciation with others, encouraging them to recognize their beauty as well.
2. Practice Feeling Safe in Your Body
Our bodies are our sacred vessels, and to truly honor our feminine energy (which holds our intuition-function), we need to feel safe within them. When we are in strive mode, working hard to make money, provide for our families, we often forget we even have a body. I know I did. We got disconnected and focused on how I will pay my bills this month. Over time, we become disconnected from our intuition which may then result in making poor relationship decisions, possibly entering into a love relationship with a man that is not healthy for us. Start cultivating body awareness by practicing mindfulness. Breathwork, meditation, and gentle movement can help you reconnect with your physical self in a gentle, non-judgmental way. This cultivates your Observing Self, an aspect of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy that augments our psychological flexibility.
Recently I have established a safe space for myself. Here I have a dedicated calming corner in my home where I intentionally engage in self-soothing practices, using a diffuser with essential oils that appeal to me, meditation, or a gentle yoga or stretching practice where I can breath deeply knowing I won’t be interrupted. Remember, feeling safe in your body opens the doors to self-acceptance and love. Don’t be afraid to put a lock on your door, to ensure you feel safe if you need to.
3. Wear Things That Make You Feel Pretty
Your outer expression is a reflection of your inner self. Choose clothing and accessories that resonate with your femininity and make you feel beautiful. Donning items like delicate lingerie, vibrant skirts, or soft fabrics can elevate your confidence and encourage you to celebrate your womanhood.Don’t shy away from indulging yourself in beautiful pieces—make it a ritual. After all, dressing for you is an act of self-love, and it sends a powerful message to your subconscious that you are worthy of beauty and joy. This is a very personal practice of cultivating beauty within. Feeling beautiful and allowing yourself to dress in a manner that allows you to feel your own sex appeal will activate you from the inside out. Where attention goes, energy flows.
4. Pause and Feel Your Feels
In the hustle of everyday life, we often forget to pause and tune in with our emotions. Give yourself permission to sit with your feelings, whether they're joyful or challenging. I have personally found that meditation, journaling, art, or even quiet reflection can be powerful tools for this process. When we express our emotions authentically, we create space for healing and deeper connections with ourselves.
As I have started to engage in this more, I have noticed my body coming alive, waking up and even having waves of feelings. Prior to this, I would often miss feelings, because I was “too busy” to stop, pause and notice. Now, I make time to pause when a feeling comes up in order to honour it. Just like a night time dream, when you honour the dream, more dreams will arrive to help. This is the same with feelings.
Interesting To Note: Over indulgence in substances and/or food works to numb our feelings. Drinking alcohol activates more masculine energy, acccording to Dr. Pat Allen a psychologist in the states who has based her life work on feminine/masculine energy and relationships.
5. Rest, Rest, Rest
I have recently discovered that a cornerstone to re-activating feminine energy is understanding the importance of rest. Our societal pressure to constantly produce can leave us depleted. Or maybe there is an unconscious belief that being busy means you are worthy. Schedule downtime into your week without guilt. Whether it’s curling up with a good book or taking a leisurely nap, allow your body and mind the chance to recharge.Remember, rest is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. In moments of stillness, you can reconnect with your essence and nurture your creative spirit.
6. Allow
Embrace the power of allowing. Instead of forcing outcomes or fearing change, practice a state of openness. Invite new experiences, emotions, and connections without judgment. Allow yourself to step into the flow of life, and you may find unexpected joys and revelations waiting for you. This also falls into the category of “letting go”. When we try to control everything our feminine energy retreats into the background and our more masculine rears its head. Notice what it is like for you to simply allow, noticing the feelings that arise when you lean back, and do this. While in our masculine energy, receiving is not easy. In fact we may even push away what others are offering us, and this is often due to the years we have spent "giving and giving and care-taking others".
These practices are not easy at first, and require psychological flexibility so don’t be shy in developing your Observing Self during this process.
7. Connect with Your Female Friends
The bonds we share with other women are vital for our wellbeing. Make time in your life for female friendships that uplift and inspire you. Share your insights, laugh, cry, and celebrate together. These connections can nurture your feminine energy, reminding you that you are part of a sisterhood—each unique, yet wonderfully intertwined. I recently read a study in social psychology, where it was discovered that women who have over 8+ female friends live longer, healthier lives. Take this to heart and reach out to your friends, the friends that feel like they are in your tribe.
8. Get Creative Juices Flowing
Creativity is a fundamental aspect of femininity. Whether through art, music, writing, or any medium that resonates with you, allow your imagination to flourish. This includes how you choose to dress, what jewelery you wear, even how you do your hair and makeup. Engage in creative pursuits that excite you and express your innermost self.
In Conclusion
Re-activating your true feminine nature is a sacred journey that encourages self-love and care, emotional allowing and expression, and fostering your creativity. By incorporating these practices into your life, you will embrace your beauty, cultivate deeper connections with yourself and others, and celebrate the unique gift that is your femininity. Remember, this journey is personal and beautiful—allow it to unfold uniquely for you.
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